Seeking Wisdom: Proverbs 18 – Velcro Relationships

“A man of many companions may come to ruin,

    but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Proverbs 18:24

There is no way around it.

The world is filled with people.

Family people.

Friend people.

Annoying people.

Beautiful people.

Happy people.

Cranky people.

Spouse people.

The world is filled with people and even worse…we have to interact with them.  There is no way around it because people are everywhere!

Proverbs 18 shows us a small list of the types of people this world has to offer and what we might expect from them.

“An unfriendly man pursues selfish ends; he defies all sound judgment.”  Pv. 18:1

“A fool finds no pleasure in understanding, but delights in airing his own opinions.” Pv. 18:2

“One who is slack in his work is brother to one who destroys.” Pv. 18:9

The difficult part about people is that we can’t tell who any of them are just by looking at them.  They don’t carry around signs that say, “I’m selfish”, “I’m a cheater”, and “I’m a liar”.  No, we only find out these things after we get to know someone.  After we talk to someone.  After we spend time with someone.

To know someone requires having a relationship with him or her and that can be risky.

I’m not immune to poor relationships and I’ve been burned many times by people too.  I’ve felt the effects of a “tongue with the power of life and death” (v. 21).  I’ve been the one who “answers before listening” (v. 13) and have offended people.

However, even when those things have happened and I find myself bent over trying to catch my breath or getting the knife from my back I don’t give up on people.

I don’t give up because God has wired us all to have relationships with one another as part of His perfect design. Sanctus Real’s lyrics, “Oh, Oh we need each other”, sum it up best because we do need each other.

Yet, despite the pain and anguish we go through with crummy relationships, it seems to make those really good relationship we stumble upon even better.

Some of Solomon’s best words I believe are found in verse 24 A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.“

I’ve been blessed to find Velcro friends that stick close to me in my lifetime.  These are men and women that challenge me to be a better man of God, but yet also are there to encourage me through the tough stuff.  I certainly hope they view me as a Velcro friend too because after sifting through a sea of frustrating relationships I can see how vital they are to my existence.

God designed us to find those brothers and sisters that stick close to us.  Yes, it will require you to put yourself out there long enough to get to know people, but I pray that at some point you will find a person whose Hook matches your Loop and you will be Velcro together with a bond that is hard to separate.


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