“For Better and For Worse”
I always find it funny when people say “I wish I could just know what the future holds.” It’s funny to me because there is no way they would want that wish to come true.
If you want to know the future it comes with both sides of the coin. That awareness comes with the good side and the bad side.
- You get to know when you are going to get married, but you also see when you are going to get into that auto accident.
- You see that promotion you are going to get, but you also see when the doctor says the results don’t look good.
- You see the birth of your first child, but you also see when your wife says I’m moving out.
The good stuff is what we’ll eat up, but the bad stuff, we’d rather leave that on the plate with the veggies. Fortunately, we don’t get the glimpse into the future we’d like, but when it comes to marriage it shouldn’t matter.
When we look our spouse, our best friend, in the eyes on our wedding day and promise to be there for them for “better or for worse” it’s not said as a question. It’s not said with a little more emphasis on the “better” and mumbling the “worse.” No, loud and proud we vow to our spouse that we will be there with them through the good, the bad, and the ugly.
As Christians, we know where we get this level of commitment, and it’s not from Mel Gibson riding a horse with Smurf paint on his face. It’s Jesus Christ.
“Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted. Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” – Matthew 28:16-20
You gotta love this section of Scripture. So, despite the fact that He spent 3 years with them, did miracles in front of them, cast out demons in front of them, was crucified in front of them, and now is resurrected in front of them “some still doubted.” Nice!
So hang on, despite the fact that there were some doubters in the posse He still commissions them to go and spread the Gospel to the world. Then, to put the cherry on the top of the unbelievable cake, He tells them despite the doubters and despite the fact that He KNEW they would not be perfect after He ascends to heaven, He says “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
There it is.
He’s with them despite the good, the bad, and the unbelievable. He’s with them NO MATTER WHAT!
So when we as Christians enter into our marriage vows to our spouse that’s the intense dedication we come into it with. We come into it humbly following the lead of our Lord and Savior, that despite our sin and imperfection, promised to be with us always. So if we are completely sold out to Him then we must be completely sold out to our spouse.
- So when your husband is lazy and doesn’t help out around the house like you think he should, you stick with him.
- So when you wife is amazing one minute and totally crabby the next, you stick with her.
- So when the butterflies are gone and you don’t sit on the couch and make-out like you used to, you stick it out.
“For better and for worse” is our opportunity to show our spouse that we are in it no matter what. And when people look like you are crazy to stick it out you need only point to Jesus when asked why you do what you do.
If He was willing to love and trust us with spreading the Gospel despite our good, bad, and unbelievable hearts then the least we can do is show that same commitment to our spouse.