“To Love and To Cherish”
It seems that love gets a lot of stage times at weddings. Heck, you could say that love gets most the repetitions in our vocabulary as a whole. We love all kinds of stuff.
- We love our favorite football team
- We love our car
- We love our dog
- We love our haircuts
- We love music
- We love our kids
- We love a good steak
Don’t get me wrong love is great! Even Paul says in 1 Corinthians 13 that if you had to choose between hope, love, and faith…love should be #1 so I’m all about some love. But what do you cherish?
To a guy, this sounds like such an effeminate term. Cherish.
What, are we going to go shopping for Precious Moments figurines after we get done reading this? Come on man!
But when it comes right down to it cherishing something is what separates our “love” for our golf clubs and the love for our kids. Cherish is what makes us want the doctors to do all they can to save him. Cherish is what makes us stay up until 2:00 am to make sure they are safe even if we’re mad. Cherish is what tells you to stay even if the job falls through and the bills are coming due.
Cherish is the varnish we put on top of our love for one another that helps to protect it from the elements of life.
The only way to fully grasp what it means to cherish someone requires gaining wisdom into the person. Wisdom is the key to the lock on the heart of your spouse that once open will show you how and what you cherish about them the most. However, in order to know someone that well it will cost you dearly. The writer of Proverbs tells us that “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding. Cherish her, and she will exalt you; embrace her, and she will honor you. She will give you a garland to grace your head and present you with a glorious crown. “ (Proverbs 4:7-9)
Marriage requires effort and every part of you committed to making it work.
If you want a marriage, then when you look the person you are vowing to spend the rest of your life with in the eyes and promise to “love and to cherish” them you are taking on an amazing task.
You are telling them that you are in constant pursuit of they heart. You are promising to them that you are protecting this love above any other human love.
It’s this intense commitment that marriage demands that causes Paul to warn those considering marriage to not do it unless you really know what you are getting into. In fact he goes so far in 1 Corinthians as to tell people NOT to get married because of the potential effects it could have on a person’s relationship with God!
But once you have decided and once you have vowed to love your spouse with a love that only God himself could have created it is amazing.
I truly believe there is nothing more powerful in our world today than a strong, committed, loving, and Christ-following married couple. The power of two people loving each other with this intense love that can only be measured in the heavenly realm is epic to our culture.
A marriage of this caliber can only serve to shine such an intense light into a dark world filled with broken marriages, broken promise, and broken hearts that anyone that looks at it can’t help but be effected.
When you look in each other’s eyes, vow to be that type of marriage. A marriage flied with cherished love in high amounts and a willingness to draw on wisdom from God to unlock the heart of the person you love.