Do you remember Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh? He was the frumpy, gray donkey that was constantly losing his tail which, when found, was then nailed back onto him. It wasn’t so much his ability to withstand pain that made him stand out, but rather his ability to find the gloom in everything around him.
He had the ability to turn sun into rain, smiles into frowns, and good days into bad days in no time! No matter what, when Eeyore came on the scene it just seemed to get a little more depressing in the Hundred Acre Woods.
Do you know people like that? Do you know people that are able to suck the life out of the room like a Dyson Vacuum cleaner?
I think we all know people like that. Heck you may even BE that person!
Here are a few questions to ask yourself if you are an Eeyore:
1. Do you always find the “but” in every situation?
Ex:“I had a good time at the party, but no one really talked to me.”
2. Do you fake laugh as a way of covering up your insecurity?
Ex: (While nervously chuckling) “Well, at least I didn’t screw up and ruin the trip to the zoo again!”
3. Do you naturally think of the negative before anything happens?
Ex: Husband: “I can’t wait to go to the park with the kids tomorrow!”
Wife: “Well, I’m sure it will rain, the kids will be terrible, and we’ll leave early.”
4. Are your relationships established around what’s wrong in your life instead of an interest in other people’s life?
Ex: “Well that’s nothing compared to what I’m going through. Let me tell you about my foot!”
If you relate to these questions and situations you may be an Eeyore and most likely you already know that.
Eeyores can be some of the most draining people in the world. Relationships are hard in the perfect situations, but they become infinitely hard with Eeyore. Let’s call it for what it is. No one wants to hang around with someone that has the spiritual gift of “fun sucking”.
As Christians, we need to have patience with these people and love them with the grace and mercy that Christ calls us to. However, I believe that if you find yourself resonating with the Eeyore condition it may be time to take action.
Without Christ this becomes very difficult to overcome because hope is found only in the fleeting. Your job, relationship, financial, mental success is your only means for finding definition and acceptance. However, if you are found in Christ your reason for being positive and excited about life is exponentially greater.
I think that when we have the urge to find a “but” or a negative in a situation we need to stop and choose to think about the Positive. We need to focus on the fact that we are accepted, loved, and found complete in Jesus and that should make us smile.
That’s huge news!
I’d love to have people say, “Man, that person really is positive and on fire for Christ! I’d love to hang out with them again!” when they walk away from speaking with us.
We can do it if we consciously focus on exuding the love of Christ and realizing that we are His walking examples of whether or not people will see the Gospel as the Good News of Jesus or the Gloom and Doom of Jesus.
A great help with this is mediating on Scripture. Here are a couple to commit to memory that should help!
“A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.“ – Proverbs 15:13
“I will praise the LORD all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live.”- Psalms 146:2
At the end of the day the choice of being an Eeyore is up to you and I. We can saunter through life with a grey cloud above our head that repels people like Off or we can confidently walk through life exuding the love of Christ.
The choice is yours.
If you want to live in the Hundred Acre Woods go ahead, but I think I’ll choose to live with people and not a boy and his imaginary, stuffed, animal friends