“Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.”
– Proverbs 5:5
WARNING: If you are a man reading this, please put your cup on. You may need it.
King Solomon is a very interesting guy. As we said before, he was the son of King David and when God gave him the chance to ask for anything he chose wisdom. God was pleased and granted him his request.
However, just because you have wisdom doesn’t mean you are always wise.
Despite Solomon’s vast wealth and power he never seemed to be able to fill his appetite for woman and sensuality. The evidence of this is found in the fact that he had 700 wives and 300 concubines during his lifetime. This is an entourage that even Hugh Hefner would blush at and TLC couldn’t even begin to do a television show about.
Yet, as we read through Solomon’s writings we hear much more caution and pain as a result of his experiences with woman than happiness. So why would a wise man that had everything be so enslaved to the pursuit of woman?
The answer is simple: He was a sinful man just like the rest of us.
In most of his writings, Solomon will personify wisdom as a woman, but don’t confuse the pursuit of these women in Proverbs 5 as wise. Nearly the entire chapter speaks to married men warning them of the effects of straying from your wife by pursuing the fleeting attention of an adulterous woman.
He holds no punches in verse 5 when saying that following the path of adultery will “lead to the grave”. In other words, things will die as a result of your decision.
I have talked to enough men that have followed the destructive path of infidelity to know Solomon is spot on. Adultery is lethal to more areas of your life than just your marriage. It will euthanize trust, respect, your finances, the spiritual blessing from God, and on and on I could go. These will be replaced with guilt, shame, anguish, anger, bitterness, denial, and any other manifestations of sin Satan can cook up.
However, this is where most guys will play the “exception to the rule” card. Even though Solomon, who the Dos Equis Man tips his hat to for quantity of romantic relationships, tells us that cheating on your wife is not worth it…we think it will be different for us.
We will be the exception to the rule.
“You don’t know my wife!, “I’m a man with needs!”, and “My wife has let herself go so much I don’t even find her attractive!” will echo through the walls of our humanity as justification for seeking the affections of another woman. The culture cheers for us on and will gain us support from other low integrity, “exception” seeking men like us.
All the while Satan sits on the shores of life waiting for you or I to take the bait. And if we do, he’ll reel us in and drop us into the same bucket with the rest of the idiot men he’s caught. We will flop around waiting to die as we realize we weren’t the “exception” we thought we were.
But also on the shoreline is God. Solomon tells us that “For a man’s ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all his paths.“ Proverbs 5:21. While Satan casts a hook for us to grab, God extends a hand for us to cling to. It’s a Hand of grace that pulls us out of the sea of lies and onto the bedrock of Truth. It’s even the hand that will snatch us from the bucket Satan threw us in, but the effects of our decision will still be ours. God’s grace is always there to love and forgive us, but we should never use it as the emergency parachute to excuse what we do.
But as we catch our breath from our near death experience, God will echo the words of Solomon in our ears.
“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
- Proverbs 5:18
Don’t let yourself be blindly led by the good looks and smooth words of another woman. You will only find adultery to be a mirage that will kill your marriage. Sprint into the arms of your wife who God has blessed you with and find safety and peace on the bedrock of God.