We’ll Listen to Grandma But We Won’t Listen To God

Public Service Announcements can be ridiculous.

You flip on the TV and all of a sudden Derek Jeter from the New York Yankees is on the screen.  You think to yourself, “Cool!  I wonder what baseball thing he’s talking about?”  So you turn up the volume only to find out he’s not talking about baseball, but instead he’s promoting neutering your Yorkshire terrier to prevent over population.

Kids are great at this phenomenon too.  Mom or dad could tell them 100 times not to jump on the couch but grandma comes in the room and with one look they are sitting on the bottoms like there were magnets in those cheeks and cushions.

What’s crazy is not that famous people do these commercials, but what seems nutty is that we actually will do what they tell us!  And I know parents are going crazy across the world thinking, “You will do it if grandpa or Angelina Ballerina tells you, but not if your mom does?”

I think God has to feel that same way about us all the time.

In the book of Jeremiah we read about the Recabite family.  God told Jeremiah to essentially go to them and have a glass of wine.  However, when Jeremiah offers it to them they are quick to say “We do not drink wine, because our forefather Jonadab son of Recab gave us this command: ‘Neither you nor your descendants must ever drink wine.’”  (Jeremiah 35:6).

However, they didn’t stop there.  They went on to list a litany of other things their forefathers had commanded them to do such as where to live, what to live in, what to farm, and many other “don’ts”.  It was obvious that the words of their ancestors carried huge weight to these people.

What’s interesting is what happens in verse 12 when God speaks through the prophet Jeremiah to these people.  He says:

“Then the word of the Lord came to Jeremiah, saying: “This is what the Lord Almighty, the God of Israel, says: Go and tell the men of Judah and the people of Jerusalem, ‘Will you not learn a lesson and obey my words?’ declares the Lord.  ‘Jonadab son of Recab ordered his sons not to drink wine and this command has been kept.  To this day they do not drink wine, because they obey their forefathers command.  But I have spoke to you again and again, yet you have not obeyed me.” (Jeremiah 35:12-14)

He goes on later to say, “I spoke to them, but they did not listen; I called to them, but they did not answer.” (Jeremiah 35:17b)

The Recabites so in tune to their forefathers and tradition that they became deaf to what God was telling them in the moment.  They would rather listen to grandma instead of God, and as a result God ended up being punishing them.

Who we listen to will determine how we will live.

Who do you listen to the most?

  • Is it the Olympic Hurdler LoLo Jones who tells you to floss?
  • Is it the celebrity you follow on Twitter you hope to retweet when they find an inspirational quote on the bottom of a Snapple lid?
  • Is it your mom who can tell you to do anything and you will jump?

What about God?  Do you listen to Him?

  • Are you listening to the world that tells you to move in with your boyfriend before you get married or are you listening to God who says to trust Him and marry them first before you play house?
  • Are you listening to your friends who tell you to buy the biggest and best or to God who says to be wise with your money and a good steward?
  • Are you listening to your coworkers that want you to lie about when you came in to work so you can get a few more hours on your check or are you listening to God who wants you to be honest?

I’m not saying that what our mom or Kevin Bacon is telling us to do is a bad thing in fact much of what they tell us to do are great things.  The problem is when we ignore the Word of God for the word of the World.   When what is going on around us becomes our focus and God becomes background noise.

As Christians we must stay in tune with what God’s Word tells us about our life and our relationship with Him.  That ultimately is what He desires and wants us to live our life by.  We can quote all the scripture we want on Facebook, but if we aren’t living it out in our life what’s the point?

Be careful not to take what you hear around you as gospel and ignore the True Gospel in the process.


Do You Assume The Best Or Worst?

Relationships take effort and time to develop.

To meet someone on the street, snap your fingers, and learn everything about them doesn’t exist..  Who knows maybe Apple will come out with that in their next IPhone, but right now there isn’t an App for that.

In order for a relationship to develop it takes time and over the course of that time we gain a better understanding for one another.  We get to see things such as character, likes and dislikes, attitudes, decision-making, and the type of spiritual life they pursue.

All of these lead us to a decision about our relationship with them.

Sometimes an increased understanding causes us to drift apart.  As more light is shed on their life they are not who you thought they were so you begin to distance yourself.  You don’t necessarily dislike them, but you feel this isn’t a healthy relationship for you to continue.

On the other hand, there are times when you genuinely like what you see in a person. The more you see the more you trust, respect, like, and want to be around them.  You allow the relationship to become a friendship and begin to live life together.

Now understand, I’m not referring to marriage when I say these things.  In marriage we have established a covenant between that person and God to live and love each other until death parts us.  If we start to see relational quirks within a marriage it doesn’t give us a hall pass to jump ship and find another spouse.

What I’m talking about is a general friendship with someone.  The opportunity to meet someone new and potentially live life beyond the stale “How are you doing?” handshake when you see them.

But at some point there may be a time in even the best of relationships that some friction arises.  Sadly sometimes the cause is not by them directly but through other people’s words.  Maybe you heard someone say something about them that seemed odd.  Maybe you think they did something, but your not sure.  Maybe their name somehow is swirling in the cesspool of gossip and it startles you.  Any number of things could cause this friction to arise in your mind and at that point you are faced with two options:

1.    Do I assume the best in the person?

Choosing this way of thinking says I trust the person’s character and give them the benefit of the doubt as to why this may have happened?  I may even dismiss what I’m hearing because of the mountains of experiences I’ve had with them that have proved otherwise.  Since I’ve taken the time to know and respect them I choose to believe them over the rumor until I have a chance to talk to them.  I don’t cast a judgment on a person who I respect and call a friend.

2.    Do I assume the worst in the person?

In this case, I assume the worst possible outcome for what I’ve heard.  I will quickly throwaway our past experiences and focus only on the issue at hand.  I don’t allow past behavior or my time with them to cloud my judgment because I can rule on this without past history.  Sadly this approach often leads to a premature guilty verdict before we even talk to the person.

I know I’ve experienced the sting of the second option often in my life and I’m guessing you have too.  You have went through hills and valleys with people and felt like you reached a place of genuine love and respect for them only to be blindsided by a false accusation. They chose to assume the worst about you before even talking to you.  Now the relationship is frayed and fragmented because of a wrong attitude.

These can be some of the most painful times in life I’ve found.  In leadership you are given a higher degree of responsibility and finer microscope.  As a result you find yourself in the open and vulnerable.  You have fewer true relationships and friendships so when someone close to you chooses to assume the worst over the best it causes you to sit back and ask, “Wow, who can I really trust?”   A heavy loneliness falls over you that can be tough to wrestle.

Now don’t get too worried (if you are at all 🙂 ) I’m doing fine.  I don’t have an earthshattering example in my life right now to relate this too, but I have been there in those lonely places.

However, I’m reminded and I’d remind you too that we are not defined by what other’s think of us but rather what God thinks of us.  I know He calls me son so I’m doing just fine.

However the times that keep me going are when those true friends choose me over the rumor.  It doesn’t necessarily make the rumor or the accusation any less frustrating, but just having someone have my back feels good.  That relationship is even stronger than before because I’ve gained a new respect for them and that is something that can’t be microwaved.

My encouragement to you is to always assume the best in relationships.  They take a long time to develop but they can be quickly torn down with the wrong assumption.  Take the time to love someone enough to go to them first before passing judgment and believe the best in them.


Seeking Wisdom: Proverbs 19 – Developing the 5th Tool of Teachability

“Stop listening to instruction, my son,

and you will stray form the words of knowledge.”

Proverbs 19:27

One of the hardest things for people to do is listen.

If you could look at me right now I’d have my hand in the air because I have a tough time doing it too especially as a guy who likes to fix things.  Once I start seeing solution pieces flying around the air while someone is talking I can’t help but to start plucking them out of the air and putting them into an action.  I admit that I’ve gotten better at this, but it has taken time and a concerted effort to shut down the problem fixing side of my brain and jump start the shut up and listen part.

There is another side to listening though.  It is listening to direction, instruction, correction, and wisdom of others that is also hard to do.

When Major League Baseball scouts are evaluating talent for upcoming drafts they evaluate them on 5 tools.  The first 4 have to do with their athletic ability and are obviously necessary.  You can’t have a player drafted who can’t hit, throw, or run because that would defeat the purpose of the game.  However the 5th tool is often looked at as the most important to scouts and organizations.  It is the “Teachability Tool”.  In other words, this is the ability to take instruction from someone and then apply it to your game so you can improve.  Scouts know that if you can find a player with that 5th tool to go along with the others they have the best chance of success.

I think if we used this evaluation process in our world we’d see a lot of people lacking that 5th tool.

There are people that may have great abilities in parenting, pastoring, being a spouse, or in their spiritual walks but the lack of a 5th tool in their life holds them back.  There is an aversion to accepting wisdom from other’s that keeps them from every being more than they could be right now.

We bristle at direction or correction by other’s because in our fragile human condition we think that if we say they are right we are seen as dumb, weak, or unable to figure it out on our own.

I have this problem a lot, but I deeply want improvement on it.  I’ve seen where my attitude and sourness to instruction and knowledge from others has only served to stifle me in my life not strengthen me in my individuality.

Our spiritual lives are stunted as well when we don’t listen to Godly counsel or to God’s Word.  The lives of others, the direction from the Bible, and the Spirit living in the lives of those around us are gifts God gives us for us to grow.  When we turn a blind eye to these gifts we miss out on valuable connection with God.

By our actions we are saying that our way is better than His way.

I’m encouraged that the wisest man in the world saw the value of accepting knowledge.  These verses have brought great clarity and direction to me and I hope they do the same for you.


“A man’s wisdom gives him patience;

    it is to his glory to overlook an offense.” – Proverbs 19:11


“He who obeys instructions guards his life,

    but he who is contemptuous of his ways will die.” – Proverbs 19:16


“Stop listening to instruction, my son,

    and you will stray from the words of knowledge.” – Proverbs 19:27

I pray that we all can be quick to listen, eager to apply, and slow to put stock in our ability to figure it all out.  Develop that 5th tool of teachability in your life and there is no doubt you will grow and find your ability to avoid many of life’s roadblocks will increase.


Shoplifting With The Kids

There it was. 

A six pack of Lipton Unsweetened Iced Teas in the new square bottle containers staring at me with a condescending look that said, “You should be ashamed of yourself.”

If I didn’t know better, I might have thought the six-pack had hidden itself like a Navy Seal in the bush so as not to be detected.  However, I took basic biology in 3rd grade and I think I read somewhere that isn’t possible.

Regardless, I had a car full of groceries, Aniston in her car seat, Easton sleeping, and a receipt that taunted me with the realization I had not paid for the Rebel Teas.

At that moment I had 3 options:

  1. Leave the teas in the cart and pretend I had a senior moment.
  2. Put the teas in the truck and drive off into the sunset.


  1. Go back in to pay for them. 

I chose option 3.

I realized in that moment I had a golden opportunity to not only do the right thing and do what God would wanted me to do, but I had the chance to teach my daughter too.  Yes, I could have easily left with free iced teas, a guilty conscience, and two kids who would have not known any different.  But instead, I chose to make the most of the situation and deal with the issue in a positive way.

As I unhooked Aniston from her carseat and reloaded Easton into the cart, we talked about why we were going back inside.  We talked about being honest, how stealing was bad, and how God wants us to do the right thing.

Granted, after I told Aniston that stealing was bad she said in a loud voice “Why you steal daddy!?” which was embarrassingly awesome.  But in the end, I had a chance to share with her about God and how He wants us to live even if it was in a small way.

Yet it was all possible because I chose to deal with the stuff on the bottom shelf.

What are your bottom shelf issues?

  • Is it the marriage that is falling apart?
  • Is it your kids that don’t know you because you are never around?
  • Is it your body that hasn’t seen a healthy meal or exercise since the 80’s?
  • Is it the addiction that you think no one knows about?

1 John 1:5-9 tells us:

“This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.   If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

You certainly can keep driving away from these things or leave them for your family and friends to deal with.  Or you could decide to attack them.

It’s time to shed some light on your bottom shelf issues so that  God do some amazing healing work in your life as he teaches, guides, and strengthens you.

Don’t let another day go by without taking inventory of your WHOLE life and seeing where you maybe trying to shoplift some things past God.


We Just Don’t See Eye To Eye Anymore

Marriage is hard.

I’m sorry for being Captain Obvious, but sometimes I think it’s good to just say it.

I’ve yet to find a “Happily Ever After” pill that I can prescribe to couples to make all the problems go away or for the white picket fence to magically pop up from the ground.

Marriage is an improbable journey teaming one broken man and one broken woman together for a lifetime.  Yet despite the reality of this dueling brokenness they still try to find relational perfection.  They still strive and work toward a utopia that continually moves just a little farther out of their reach.

The problems arise when, in pursuit of the perfection mirage, the two look at each other and claim the other person’s brokenness is the reason they can’t reach marital perfection.  “If you could just figure your stuff out we’d be a lot better” becomes the war cry that each uses as their counter attack.

Slowly and painfully the two set up individual camps in opposition to one another and dig their heals in for the long haul.   If anyone asks what went wrong, many if not all of them will simply say “We just don’t see eye to eye anymore.”

Now, the world will tell each side to cut their losses, get a divorce, and start looking for the next prince or princess to come along.  The hope is to replace one set of brokenness with a different set that’s easier to deal with.

In other words, if you can’t see eye to eye maybe you can get a new set of eyes that you can see into more clearly.  Yet, statistics will tell you that this approach is destined to fail too.  It’s not surprising to see 3,4,5 marriages in a lifetime once people start retreating from the battle.

So what can you do when the battle lines have been drawn?

What do you do when there are two camps in one house?

What do you do when you don’t see eye to eye anymore?

I will tell you.

You don’t need new eyes to look at, you need to look to someone else.

“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.  Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” – Hebrews 12:2-3

We need to push pause on our selfish, self-justifying, self-centered stances against our spouse and focus our attention onto Jesus who is the only one that can correct our vision.  He is the one that can give our marriage the Lasik our eyes need to start seeing it as He wants us to.

If we can start seeing our spouse as Jesus sees them then things would be radically different.


We’d have compassion and love toward each other that is unconditional.  We’d forgive even when we were offended.  We’d seek to serve without strings attached.  We’d communicate without holding back or be fearful of what the other person may say.  We’d see the brokenness in each other not as buttons to push but for places to nurture and protect.

Our marriages would and can be different if we started seeing eye to eye with Jesus first and our spouse second.  It’s really that simple and that possible.  He is waiting with eyes wide open to heal your life and your marriage.  Don’t give up the fight just because you seem to have a cataract.   Look to Jesus and He will heal your sight.

After all, if you both are staring into the eyes of Jesus aren’t you already on the same page?


True Confessions Of A First Time Dad: Aniston’s Sweat Lodge

The other night my wife heard Aniston on the video monitor and it sounded like she was crying.  She went down to check on her and found our precious 3 year old sweating like she just finished the Chicago Marathon.  As sweat was pouring down her cheeks, Cherie was concerned that maybe she had spiked a fever so she hurried to check her temperature.

Fortunately her temperature was normal.  But as Cherie was putting the thermometer away, she noticed Aniston had packed several fleece blankets under her duvet cover and was snuggling up with all of them.  If you didn’t know better, you would think we made her sleep in a walk-in meat locker at the Jewel by the way she was covered up.

Cherie gently told her that if she was hot she didn’t have to use all the blankets and could take some off.  To which Aniston said, “I ok, I a hot and sweaty.”   She said ok, kissed her salty forehead good night and walked out as Aniston went back into her self-induced, princess themed, sweat lodge.

I’ll jump right to the point.

We do this kind of thing in our own lives all of the time.

Every day, we voluntarily wrap ourselves up with all kinds of stress, worry, anxiety, and bad choices.  As a result, we walk around sweating profusely like an overweight man forced to walk up a broken escalator.

What we fail to remember is that God never intended for us to walk around this way.  He never designed us to somehow endure life by trying to fix ourselves or carry our burdens as punishment.  God has a different plan.   A plan designed to free us from exerting energy on life’s garbage and instead using that energy on living a life glorifying to him.

Don’t take my word for it; listen to the words of Jesus.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”Matthew 11:28-30

So before you pass out from dehydration or ruin another shirt with sweaty pit stains, consider what unnecessary things you are carrying around.

What are you trying to bear down and fix yourself that God is asking you to lay at the foot of the cross?

Bring it to Him and don’t take it back.  He has much bigger things for you to be doing than playing peak-a-boo with Him under the covers of life.

Believe me, He will let you keep your junk if you want to.  But you may just find that there is a whole lot of fresh air that He is waiting to let you breath in outside of the blankets.


How Christians Can Cheapen Grace

The Grace of Jesus Christ is amazing and makes no sense if you think about it.

To make sure we are all on the same page, here’s the Cliff’s Notes definition of the Gospel and the Grace produced from it.

At a point in time, God in His Trinitarian beauty created the Earth and man to live in it.  It was a perfect union between the Divine and His creation designed by God Himself.  As part of this creative beauty God provided freewill to be given to man.  This freewill was a gift so that the relationship between God and Man was not forced but freely chosen.

Our first parents, Adam and Eve, abused this freewill and disobeyed our Loving God by choosing sin over Him.  As a result, the perfectly designed relationship was fractured beyond our repair, but not beyond God’s.

Enter into this creation Jesus Christ the second member of the Trinity, the Son of God, the Messiah sent by God to repair our fracture.  His undeniable perfect life, unjust crucifixion, and unbelievable defeat of death were the only way for man to be reconciled back to God.

However God didn’t force this reconciliation to take place, but rather allowed our freewill to again come into the picture.

By freely accepting Christ’s gift of Grace we gain freedom not only from sin and an eternity apart from God, but  freedom to live free in this life.  Free from the bondage of sin and  in rhythm with the Creator of the Universe.

THIS is the most amazing of all realities and one that is staggering to consider.  That the God of the Universe after being spit in the face with our sin and told “I will be my own god” did not turn His back on us, but instead gave us His very best in Jesus to provide a way out.  To provide a second chance to the creation that turned from Him.  A second chance to live in relationship with God and apart from sin.

That is Gospel and that is Grace.

If we as Christians really let this set sink in, it should bring us to tears of daily.  They should be tears of joy, amazement, and appreciation, but tears that should propel us to live lives of gratitude with ever breath we are given.

However many Christians take this gift of Grace and arrogantly use it as a reason to continue to sin.  Their war cry is “Why stop sinning when Grace covers them all anyway!”

Seems like a heck of a deal on face value doesn’t it?  This version of grace has all the benefits of eternity with none of the nasty aftertaste of having to change my lifestyle.

This grace says, I don’t need to listen to any spiritual direction because I can keep sleeping with whomever I want, never get married, cheat on my business partner, lie on my taxes, look at anything on the computer I want, cuss out anyone I feel like, and do anything else I want to do that may make me “happy”.  After all, I just have to  pull out my grace debit card, punch in my password of J-E-S-U-S and my fines are paid!  Then I’m free to jump back into the sinning pool.  Wooo-Hoooo!!!

I’m sorry.  I can’t even type that without laughing out loud and getting sick.

Even a person with a moral compass without a needle has a better grasp on reality than that!  When we arrogantly use Grace to justify our sinful lifestyle we are cheapening God’s Grace.

  • The Christian couple that is having sex before marriage even though they know God disapproves cheapens grace.
  • The Christian woman that knows divorce is against God’s plan for marriage but yet divorces her husbands anyway cheapens grace.
  • The porn addict that continues in his addiction despite the effect it has on his family and God cheapens grace.
  • The Christian leader that lives his life one way on Sundays, but Monday – Saturday there is not distinction between them and a non-Believer cheapens grace.

Now, am I saying we need to be perfect and if we aren’t God should strip us of His Grace?

Absolutely not!

God’s Grace is for sinners like you and me, but its design was that after realizing our sin, repenting of it, receiving forgiveness, we should stop doing it.  Grace is best seen in it’s beautiful application as broken people leave their sin at the foot of the cross and walk away to live new lives.

If we choose to flaunt our freewill and live our lives with a cheapened view of grace we are fooling ourselves not God and may not really know Christ at all.  We shouldn’t just thank God for the grace refill and keep on keeping on.

The Apostle Paul cuts to the core of this issue in Romans 6 when he says,

“What shall we say, then?  Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death?  We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.”Romans 6:1-4

The Apostle John speaks to the effect of ignoring of sin this way in 1 John 1:

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.  If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives. 1 John 1:9-10

I know what some of you may be thinking, “Man Brian this is harsh.  Where’s the love?”

Believe me, the Love is still there.

Christ’s love for us is always there, but it’s a Love that wants us to turn from sin not back into it.  It’s a Love that died so that sin might die in us.  It is a Love that if you and I truly know it, see it, desire it, and grasp it, will make us want to change from our wicked ways not find more wicked to try,

It’s a Love that doesn’t want us to arrogantly spit in it’s face, but with tears in our eyes look at it with adoration and give our life to follow It.

By thinking we can abuse the gift of grace God has given us we truly are the ones that are foolish and lost because God isn’t fooled.  He knows our hearts, He knows that we know what we are doing is wrong, but yet He still allows us freewill in our lives.

Freewill that can allow us to fall into the lies of sin, or freewill that propels us into the arms of a loving God.  Arms that love us, desires good for us, and even though we may have to say no to what we “want” now we will be told “yes” to what we don’t deserve later because of them.

I pray we can all start to feel the full effects of the Authentic Grace the way God designed it and stop fooling ourselves with the imitation cheap kind.


True Confessions Of A First Time Dad: I Want My Daughter To Marry A Leader

I was listening to a message about a year ago by Greg Surratt a pastor at Seacoast Church in South Carolina.  I couldn’t tell you what the point of the message was, but at one point he was talking about his daughter and the boys that wanted to date her.

That perked my attention.

He went on to describe how he had a process by which he would “interview” potential suitors for his daughter by making them meet him at his church office. When they got there, he’d sit them down and ask them a series of questions.  Some were spiritual and some were just meant to poke around at their character.

All of them were great, but the most brilliant of all the questions was “What are you the leader of?”

I had thought of a lot of questions to ask Aniston’s future boyfriends such as “blood or urine?”, but until now I had never thought about asking about their leadership.  It now is #2 on my list after “Are you a Christian?”

Why should leadership get a spot that high on a daddy’s list?  Well here are a few reasons.

  • A leader takes charge of a situation.
  • A leader isn’t influenced by the crowd, he influences the crowd.
  • A leader is disciplined and enjoys correction.
  • A leader respects others and is respected for it.
  • A leader rises above average to pursue excellence.
  • A leader is self-motivated while motivating others.
  • A leader knows how to pull the best out of people.
  • A leader looks around for solutions, not excuses.
  • A leader charts their own course not the course charted by others.
  • A leader doesn’t have to be convinced to go to school.
  • A leader doesn’t consider college a possibility, it’s a given.
  • A leader looks at challenges as opportunities to rise above.

And that’s just the short list.

I want my daughter to marry a man who is a Christian and a leader because I know she won’t want to drag around a “follower” her entire life.  She won’t want to push an unmotivated “boy that shaves” to do something when she is laser focused on something greater.  She’s not going to be attracted to a couch potato, majoring in video games, and living in their mom’s basement because they are “holding out for a management position”.

No I want my daughter to be led, inspired, encouraged, and loved by a person that is driven for more than the next day.  A man that loves Jesus and wants to love her that same way too.

I want my daughter to marry a leader because I know she will be one herself and will settle for nothing less.  So boys between the ages of 2-4 you better step up your game and start leading if you want my daughter’s hand in marriage.

To my single men friends out there, I’d ask you to consider who you’re leading and where are you going?  Not so you can just settle down to do something with your soul mate, but so you can settle your soul’s desire to do something!

And single ladies, please, please, please don’t settle for a follower.  Be a leader yourself and don’t look behind you for someone dragging tail through life, but look next to you for someone running with their eyes fixed on the same goals as you.

Aniston I love you and I can’t wait to interview a few leaders for you someday.

Ok, maybe I can wait a long time 🙂