While you are reading this I’m most likely finishing a book, snorkeling with some freaky fish, or floating around the lazy river at the resort for the 500th time, but anyway you slice it I’m still enjoying my time in Mexico! It’s our 10 year anniversary treat and Cherie and I have been looking forward to for a loooooooooong time.
This week I’ve taken a moment to reflect on my past decade of marriage and jot down 10 lesson’s I’ve learned. You can take a look at the first 5 later, but right now here are the final 5 lessons I’ve learned from 10 years of marriage.
Lesson #5 – Kids Are Icing On The Cake
After years of trying, God final blessed Cherie and I with two beautiful children Aniston and Easton. Though we continue to be amazed with how God is able to multiple love infinitely with each addition to our family we still come back to the fact that our relationship is #1. Children are great but they are just the icing on the cake. We’ve learned that to be the best parents we can we need to be the best married couple we can and to be the best married couple we can be we must pursue God as best as we can. Without the right Foundation you really have nothing.
Lesson #4 – My Wife Hates Surprises
It only took me 10 years to realize that my wife hates surprise parties or surprises in general. Believe me, I know get it and will not be trying to sneak one by her. This was important because as we live life together I get to know Cherie more and learn more about her. I pray I never stop uncovering new nuances to the love of my life. Lord knows I’m a piñata of surprises and annoyances, but we both love even this part of the journey too.
Lesson #3 – Marriage Takes Effort
The white picket fence technicolor family is a myth. There is no such thing as a wife that wakes up in the morning with make-up on and there isn’t a man out there that enjoys mowing the lawn in Dockers. Marriage is about the sweat pants and morning breath of life. It is being patient, kind, loving, forgiving, and serving even when you didn’t think you left the light on or the toilet seat up. Marriage takes effort and it’s not always fun, but it’s always worth it. Don’t give up when things get tough. Keep fighting!.
Lesson #2 – I Still Don’t Like Sweat Potatoes
My wife has done a great job of helping to open my eyes to new things throughout these past 10 years. Turning the lights off, hanging up clothes, and the difference between lights and darks have been ground breaking epiphanies for me. However I still hate sweat potatoes and I always will. Not even my wife’s gorgeous blue eyes can convince me. I’ve learned that it’s ok to still be me and not be who my wife wants me to be. Just because the Bible says you become one when you get married doesn’t mean you become twins. It’s ok to be an individual and that’s a good thing.
Lesson #1 – The Best Is Yet To Come
Although I can look back on the last 10 years of marriage and be more than overwhelmed with the amazing things God has done I know the best is yet to come. I know I get to grow more as a husband and daddy. I know there will be graduations and sports games. I know I will beat my head against the wall in frustration, hold my head in hands full of tears, and grab my sides in joyful laughter. But most of all I know I will be more in love with Cherie every day that God gives us together. The best is truly yet to come.
I hope a few of these struck a chord with you or atleast encouraged you along your journey. We don’t have it all figured out and there are markers along our road these past 10 years to prove it, but as I look back I can see more fingerprints of God than anything else. His grace sustains and guides us daily and I pray He does the same for you.
Well that’s it for now so I’ll see you later probably smelling like Aloe Vera!