10 Lessons From 10 Years Of Marriage (Part 1)

As you read this, I will either be on a plane or on a beach in Mexico celebrating 10 years of marriage with my amazing wife Cherie.  Ok, so our anniversary was in August, but let’s face it I’d rather be getting sunburnt while you’re freezing in snow so I feel better about myself.  🙂

10 years is a long time…like a decade long…like how long Friends was on TV long…like how many years it’s been since I’ve had hair long…it’s a long time.  I realize that there are many more sets of 10 ahead of Cherie and I, but this first 10 years has afforded me the blessing of learning a great deal about life and marriage.

My hope is that these 10 short lessons I’ve learned will also bless you.  Perhaps they will even encourage you to enjoy what God has done in your life regardless of the challenges you may be facing.

Here are the first 5 Lessons I’ve Learned…so far:

Lesson #10 –  You Aren’t Fully In Love At The Wedding

At our wedding I was in love with Cherie more than anyone I’d ever met in my life, but I didn’t know how much I loved her until 10 years worth of life together.  When I said “I do” my love balloon was barely full of air, but I thought it was busting at the seams!  Over the years I’ve seen that more love can fit into that balloon than I ever thought possible the more in love I become with her.  Love is truly like wine as it only gets better with age.

Lesson #9 – Money Doesn’t Make A Difference

Our first Christmas we celebrated with a dead ficus tree, 1/2 of string of lights, one ornament, and microwave dinners.  We didn’t have two pennies to rub together but it was awesome.  Now that we do have a few pennies to make friction with we still remember the ficus and that money doesn’t make a difference in our happiness.

Lesson #8 – I Love Going Home

Cherie and I both work very hard and love what we do, but there is no better feeling than the anticipation of going home.  I’m so glad that we have a relationship that we WANT to be with each other.  This takes effort, but the return on investment is completely worth it.

Lesson #7 – I Still Date My Wife

One of the best things about being married is dating my wife.  Ten years in and we still plan outings, concerts, dinners, or just trips to the coffee shop to be together.  I know that when I look on my calendar and see an appointment for a 6:00 PM meeting with a hot brunette I still get butterflies.  One of our greatest strengths as a couple is that we still pursue one another and love being together

Lesson #6 – LIfe is Hard And God is Good

Although we have a great marriage and have loved our first 10 years together life is still hard.  Jobs, bosses, coworkers, infertility, sickness, family, friends, moves, and on and on I could go have created difficulties.  Yet through it all the fact that we both lean into God for our strength in all things has sustained us.  We have been faithful to Him and He has been oh so faithful to us.  Yes, life is hard, but God is amazing.

I know that I thank Him daily for the life He’s given me and the privilege of 10 years with my best friend.  Take a second to thank Him for the blessings in your life and ask for his continued guidance in your life.


Stay tuned…1-5 is next time….


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